Talk with friends to solidify it

<p> After you privately internalize a belief, talk about it with friends. Explaining it to different people helps you refine it. They might see an angle or consequence you hadn’t considered. </p><p> You hear it for the first time outside your own mind. You’ll hear it sound wrong or right when telling someone else. </p><p> It feels like an announcement. It helps solidify the decision. You can ask them for help to support your choice, and to hold you to it. </p><p> <strong> We know ourselves through others. </strong> If people say you have nice eyes, then you must have nice eyes. When your friends acknowledge your belief and echo it back to you, it really feels like reality. </p>